RELATIONSHIPS…And the Laundry List of Expectations with Baby Mama Drama on The Side
God said it is not good for man to be alone…God designed humans for RELATIONSHIP, Love, Marriage, and Family…
Keep in mind that sex and love are NOT the ONLY things needed for a healthy marriage. Love and sex alone will not sustain a marriage. There are plenty of people getting divorces that still love the one they’re divorcing.
Do a SELF-CHECK...Before you decide to get into a relationship...
WHO ARE YOU? Can you answer that about yourself? Are your finances intact? Do you have a job? Do you have money in your bank account? Are your kids out of control? Do you have baby mama drama? Are you the baby mama causing drama? Are creating UNHEALTHLY relationship with your children? Are you attached to your children that hinders you dating, going out or being in a relationship? Are you signing the ticket for your child to be wearing inappropriate clothing...Just saying!!!
If your affairs are not in order...STOP trying to be on the relationship or dating scene and get your life together!!! YUP I SAID IT!
Women have a laundry list of expectations when it comes to dating a guy or marriage. There's nothing wrong with having expectations, wants and needs, but be in position to have all those things you are requesting from your mate. Make sure you have those same qualities to exist in yourself! YUP I SAID IT!!!
You want a man with a job…Do you have a job?
You want a financially stable man…Are you financially stable?
You want a well rounded man…smart but not a nerd, street but not a thug…sexy but not a player…Do you know who you are?
You want him to be God fearing…But what is your relationship with God like?
You want him to be neat and have great hygiene…Are you clean?
You want him to able to cook and clean as well…Can you cook and is your house clean?
What do you have to bring to the table besides Breast, Booty, sex, cosmetics, and your attitude?
Do you have a car? Is it paid off? Do you rent or own? Is your credit jacked up? Do you have at least $10k in your bank account?
Do you have good etiquette?
We want all these things from a man but are shy from meeting majority of the things we want from him.
Women are you simply seeking marriage… for someone to take care of you? Or because you don’t have a lot going on in your own life? So, you decide…YUP...I'm ready for a relationship or marriage…maybe this will help me to discover who I am and what I want to do...If that's you... GIRRRRLLL…bye…That is a set-up for failure.
Bottom line men and women...relationships require give and take, and far beyond love and sex. If you don't know who you are, your struggles or the simple things to place your life in order you're not ready for a relationship.
If you're a Christian and don't spend time with God now...you will definitely neglect HIM in a marriage. STOP using relationships as an escape...LEARN to deal with your issues before you blame someone else for your unhappiness.
LISTEN TO THE PODCAST and get some nuggets from my husband (Ted2Real) and I...We don't know everything but we definitely know WHO WE ARE!!!